One man's answer to Judy Syfers' classic essay: Why I Want a Wife

Adam Ayd sent us this essay that he wrote for a school assignment back in 1995. Please feel free to comment, but to be fair, make sure you read it all the way to the end.

Why I Want A Real Wife - October 6, 1995 by Adam Ayd

A real wife - a woman who is as much of a wife as her husband is a husband.

I belong to a classification of people know as men. I am A Man who is put down so very often by women for the way that they think we treat them.

Not too long ago in AP English, I was given an assignment to read an essay by Judy Syfers called Why I Want A Wife. Although the essay was written in 1971, Syfers went on to explain what the stereotypical man would want for a perfect wife. As I read the essay, I felt offended because the fact of the matter is that most women think that men expect this, but most men actually don't. Have you read some of the headlines on women's magazines? "How to Get the Money You Deserve", "How to Cheat, and Get Away With It", and most of all, "All Men Are Pigs, the Proof on p. 130." Please! I don't treat women like this and most of my friends don't either. Bitter are we? All I want is a real wife.

I would like to go to college so I can live a better life, support myself, and support those dependent of me. I want a wife who works and can take care of the kids. I want a wife who takes care of the children's clothing, schooling, and health problems. I want a wife who will spend quality time with the children and insure a safe and happy life with them. I want a wife who will keep the children clean and make sure they are taught the proper way. I want a wife who will feed the children and make sure what they are eating is healthy. I want a wife who will make sure that the children have an adequate social life and encourages them to interact with their peers. I want a wife who will take time from her work and leisure time to be with the children.

I want a wife who will attend to my physical needs. I want a wife who will clean the house and pick up after me and the children. I want a wife who will do the laundry, and iron and mend the clothes. I want a wife who is a good cook and will cook dinner at any time. I want a wife who will go to the market when need be. I want a wife who will care for me when I am sick and sympathise with me when I am injured. I want a wife who will plan the family vacations and who will handle the monthly budget.

I want a wife who will come and talk to me about her problems and not keep them away from me. I want a wife who will listen to me when I have problems. I want a wife who will work with me through problems at work or with our children. I want a wife who will help me with abstruse problems. I want a wife who is emotionally, as well as physically strong.

I want a wife who will be a part of my social life. When my wife and I go out with friends, I want a wife who will take care of all the babysitting arrangements. When I am expecting people, I want a wife to have the house clean and to prepare and serve a special meal for my guests. I want a wife who will integrate herself into the conversation without being rude. I want a wife who likes the same things I do. I want a wife who is my best friend. I want a wife who respects my space and realizes that sometimes I need to be alone.

What I've just described to you are not just my expectations of my perfect wife, but also of me. I can only expect something from someone if they can expect it from me. Basically, I want a wife who is just like me.